Wife Pressuring Husband To Leave Ageing Parents & Live Separately In Rented House Amounts To Cruelty: Madras HC Upholds Divorce

Can a wife’s repeated pressure on her husband to leave his ageing parents and set up a separate home amount to matrimonial cruelty? The Madras High Court examined what the husband went through even after agreeing to her demand and upheld the divorce.

TAMIL NADU: The Madras High Court has upheld a divorce granted to a husband after finding that his wife repeatedly stayed at her maternal home without valid reasons and pressured him to leave his ageing parents and live separately in a rented house.

A Division Bench of Justice P.T. Asha and Justice N. Mala dismissed the wife’s appeal against the Family Court order granting divorce on the ground of matrimonial cruelty.

The couple married on June 6, 2019. The husband was his parents' only son and lived with them in his own house. According to his case, the wife initially did not accompany him to the matrimonial home. After persuasion by the husband and his parents, she returned but stayed there for only about two months before going back to her maternal home for nearly four months.

The husband repeatedly requested her to return. However, the wife insisted that he should live separately from his parents.

Despite already owning a house and having responsibility towards his ageing parents, the husband agreed to her demand. He rented a separate house so that they could continue their matrimonial life.

But the dispute did not end there.

According to the husband, the wife stayed in the rented house for only about a month and then demanded that he shift again to another rented house closer to her parents. The husband once again agreed and shifted residence.

Later, after another dispute, the wife returned to her maternal home. The husband claimed that his repeated efforts to bring her back failed. She subsequently initiated maintenance proceedings, while he approached the Family Court seeking divorce on the ground of cruelty.

The wife denied his allegations. She alleged that the husband’s parents created problems because she had not brought dowry and claimed that the husband had driven her out of the matrimonial home. She also accused him of failing to maintain her and their daughter and alleged that he had an illicit relationship with another woman.

However, the courts examined whether the allegations were established by evidence. The High Court noted that despite opportunities, the wife did not produce documents and did not subject herself to cross-examination.

The Family Court therefore found that her allegation that the husband and his parents had driven her out was not proved through cogent evidence.

The High Court observed:

“The relationship of a husband and wife is a reciprocal relationship and cannot be at the dictates of either of the spouses. The matrimonial bond has to be nurtured with compassion, mutual adjustment and love.”

The Court particularly examined the effect of the wife repeatedly leaving the matrimonial home despite the husband agreeing to her demand for a separate residence.

It observed:

“The frequent visits of the appellant to her maternal house, leaving the respondent, for no valid reasons, create a sense of insecurity in the respondent's mind and in our view, such frequent separation even, if temporary, for unjustifiable and invalid reasons, amounts to cruelty since the respondent cannot be left with a fear that his wife may pickup a fight with him and leave him at the drop of a hat.”

The Bench also took note that the husband was the only son of his parents. The wife had married him knowing this fact and knowing that he had responsibilities towards his parents in their old age.

Despite this, the husband was pressured to leave them and establish a separate residence. Significantly, he had even accepted that demand, moved into a rented house and later shifted again.

On this issue, the High Court held:

“We are also of the view that the appellant, having married the respondent knowing fully well that he was the only son of his parents and was bound to take care of them in their old age, unjustifiably pressurised him to set up a separate residence, which amounts to cruelty.”

Finding no reason to interfere with the Family Court’s decision, the Madras High Court dismissed the wife’s appeal and upheld the decree of divorce granted to the husband on the ground of cruelty.

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KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Wife pressured husband to leave ageing parents: The Court found her pressure on the only-son husband to set up a separate residence unjustified.
• Husband still agreed to live separately: Despite owning a house and having responsibilities towards his parents, he shifted to a rented house.
• One separate house was not enough: The husband’s case was that she later insisted on shifting again closer to her parents.
• Repeated separation amounted to cruelty: The Court said unjustified frequent separation could create insecurity in the husband’s mind.
• Husband’s divorce upheld: The Madras High Court dismissed the wife’s appeal and confirmed the divorce granted on cruelty.